Leaving the church is not the answer.
When we find ourselves questioning things we need to lean into the church. This is not the time to back away. Satan would have us to step back. He wants to isolate us and convince us that we are all alone.
The fear of man brings a snare. It's a trap. We shouldn't be afraid to be real. Listen, we are sisters and brothers. Who in the natural are you totally yourself around? Your family. Spiritually, it should be the same. We need to be real with our sisters and brothers. We need to stop hiding our true selves. It is amazing what happens when we decide to be genuine. The church strengthens us. We need each other, however imperfect we are. We are not alone. Sharing our struggles shows us how very much we have in common. We must not back away. We have to be genuine in our faith. Don't retreat when doubts arise. Press in, and open up. Doubts are OK. We all struggle with doubt. Let's struggle together.
There is nothing wrong with asking questions. Ask questions. Be real. Be weak. Let your weakness show. For when I am weak, He is strong. We are strong. Stronger together. Tell the truth.
I think most of us don't know how to do it. We want to change, but we don't know how. And we are afraid to admit it.
I don't have it all together. No one does.
This is me, today, being real:
"Church. I love church. I love community. Common Union. Jesus is our common union. I have been blessed to be locked into a part of this thing called the church for 16 years. But, taking these steps to follow Jesus, is leading me away from what I have become so comfortable with. Today, as I step out of the boat, I feel a little like Peter, maybe, sinking in the storm tossed sea begging Jesus to save me. I am afraid and unsure and faith feels sort of uncomfortable and unrecognizable. I'm not sure of my footing and I'm not sure where to put my foot down. I am faltering and scared and it feels dark in here. I want to trust and follow but I am full of doubt. I need You Lord to settle Your peace upon my heart. I need to feel Your presence. This living by faith is kind of lonely right now. Please comfort my heart and mind."
The church needs reality.
Come on people, this is just ridiculous. Let's just be real with each other. All of these walls, they need to come down.
Feel free to start being real by leaving your real in the comments, there is no judgement here. Just a place to be you. To share and to be loved.